40 Days of Relaxation - Day 5

Wednesday, Feb 2, 2011 - Day 5
Wow - I am exhausted today after my acupuncture appointment yesterday. I must have had some serious energetic stuckness going on because today my jaw is sore, I feel super tired and a bit weepy and I'm all puffy. Well, the puffy part could be from the salty popcorn I ate last night I guess.

Today's relaxation is going to be a Yin class, led by Thomas from the YMCA. I have heard very good things about his class so I am very excited to be the student and receive the teaching today. Too bad I can't bring my dog. I guess she'll miss out on day 5 of relaxation. Of course she dozes most of the day in the office and most of the evening on our bed and most of the night in her kennel so I guess she is pretty relaxed already.

Here's what Thomas said when I told him I would be attending his class:

I was sorry to read about your tooth pain in your blog although your "cheeky" tone eased the pain. My prayer is that your experience on Wed night will be healing and medicinal for you; consider it your "ibuprof-yin."

Isn't that cute? Ibuprof-Yin!

40 Days of Relaxation - Day 4

Tuesday, Feb 1, 2011 - Day 4
Today I went really nuts with relaxation. OK that sounded weird but here's what happened. After my sister, who is in school to become an Acupuncturist, read my blog post, Relaxation for Tooth Pain, she emailed me some images from her Acupuncture textbook which show some key points to help relieve pressure and tension in the jaw. Here's what they look like:

Images from: A Manual of Acupuncture 
Authors:  Peter Deadman and Mazin Al-Khafaji

Journal of Chinese Medicine Publications; 2 edition, June 25, 2007

And here's what my sister wrote me to do:

Hi Sara,
I just read your post about your teeth pain and what your dentist told you. Just relax Sara. haha! But seriously, not fun at all. Teeth pain can be horrible.

I clench my teeth in my sleep and I find that if I spend a few minutes massaging certain points before I go to bed, it helps me not clench during the night. Additionally, I massage them for relief from tight jaw muscles. I have attached a document with some jpegs from my main acupuncture book to show you the points that would be good for you.

On the first page, the one that has a ton of points on it, the ones that would be good for you are the 3 that are in a vertical row in front of the opening to your ear. So would the one right under your earlobe named SJ-17.

On the second page, all of those would be good for you.

On page 3, there is a point named AN MIAN/PEACEFUL SLEEP - The name tells you what it does. It is on the mastoid process but more toward the back edge of it on the same horizontal line as SJ-17 which is right under your earlobe.

I hope that this well be helpful for you. Plus, I don't want you taking more ibuprofen than you have to!!!

Well, this all got me thinking that I needed to make an appointment with my local L.Ap., Jodie Cope. I've been meaning to get in to see her for a while now anyway for my weird cold left foot problem. She was able to get me in today right after I got done teaching my second yoga class (which happens to be right across the street from her office - very convenient). Anyway, she treated all the points that my sister had recommended plus my usual ones for the cold left foot and some others that are a mystery to me. I know she got some good ones though because all the points were so tender.

When I got home I was exhausted. I ate, crawled in bed and watched TV for a while, and then listened to track 2 of Relax into Wellness, Vol. 1 (about 26 min). The practice is called Autogenic Training. It was super great! I was so relaxed. The practice basically consists of imagining your breath and your heartbeat to be in time to waves on a beach and then telling yourself that your body parts are heavy and warm. Well since I was under the covers with my electric blanket on high I had no problem imagining the heavy and warm part. And I loved the imagery of my breath and heartbeat going in time to the waves. I felt quite a bit more alert by the end of the practice.

I'm a bit tuckered out still from the treatment and I have some discomfort in my jaw and in my hands (points in the hand lead up to the jaw) but my jaw feels very loose which is nice. I am glad I went to see Jodie and I think I will go see her again within a few weeks.

Oh yeah - my dog is on day 4 in relaxation too. Hee hee.

40 Days of Relaxation - Day 3

Monday, Jan 31, 2011 - Day 3
I could hardly tear myself away from my computer to take a 1/2 hour relaxation break. I am working on our business webpage redesign and I felt like I was finally getting somewhere. But I made myself a promise that I would relax so I got myself situated in my yoga room (with my dog) and listened to Relax into Wellness, Vol. 1, Track 1. The practice is called "Progressive Relaxation" which is basically tense and release. This is not my favorite relaxation exercise because I tend to over-tense my muscles but I decided to do it anyway. Dr. Louise has a very soothing voice. I think I'll try track 2 tomorrow.

Oh yeah - my teeth. I tried a banana this morning (room temp = sortof cold) and it was only mildly painful instead of shockingly painful like it was last Monday. I only had to microwave my cold cereal for 45 seconds instead of a minute to get it to a tolerable temp. I feel like I'm making progress.

40 Days of Relaxation - Day 2

Sunday, Jan. 30, 2011 - Day 2
I did my own practice today. I listened to a healing sounds CD and rested in Supported Reclining Bound Angle, Supported Side Reclining Twist, Supported Child's Pose and then I woke myself up a bit at the end with Supported Reclining 1/2 Saddle (Hero) Pose. It took me longer to feel relaxed when I had to rely on myself but by about 1/2 way through the practice I was totally into it. My mind was quiet and so was my body.

As an aside, I think my doggie is going to do the 40 day practice too. She loves going in my yoga room when I am in there doing a slow practice. I'm not sure if it's the heat, the vibe or the carpet but she loves it. She is on day two too.

40 Days of Relaxation - Day 1

OK. So I need to relax according to my dentist. Well, luckily I have all the tools I need, right at my finger and brain tips. I have tons of relaxation CD's and of course I'm pretty good with restorative postures. So I am going to self-impose a 40 day practice of Deep Relaxation.

Saturday, Jan. 29, 2011 - Day 1
I propped myself up in Supported Savasana with the small room heater blowing on my feet and listened to the 2nd Yoga Nidra practice (track 3) of Robin Carnes first Yoga Nidra album. It's about a 45 minute practice.

I could feel my jaw loosening up as soon as I laid down. The Yoga Nidra practice is super soothing. So soothing, I think I fell asleep for part of it. But I swear it felt like I was awake. At any rate, at the end of the practice I felt great. Refreshed, cheerful, and relaxed.

I think my dentist is on to something. This relaxation stuff really works. Ha ha.

Relaxation for Tooth Pain

I have developed some serious tooth pain this week after a few weekends of lots of activity. (Bear with me while I set the scene.) Two weekends ago Dave and I took a trip to visit friends (Jan 15-17) and last weekend (Jan 21-22) I co-led the annual Winter Reflection Retreat at Camp Amnicon with Molly from Yoga North. This was our second year in a row being the facilitators and we had a great group.

Being the teacher of relaxation and reflection is a funny place to be though. I am not "zen" enough to be totally relaxed while I am teaching relaxation, which I think is a bit funny. But teaching is not the same as receiving. So while the weekend was lovely, it was not 100% relaxing for me.

Molly and I each had our own little hermitage cabin, which are the cutest little dwellings you ever did see. Cabins: about 12 x 16 with a gas "fireplace" furnace, well appointed double bed, glide rocker, writing table, eating table, a lamp for each sitting place, mini-fridge, microwave, bread-maker, water jug, tiny sink (with a bucket for plumbing) and heated out-house. Lovely space. I didn't do much sleeping in it though. My mind wouldn't turn off and neither would the lovely, warm and flickery fireplace (it was very cold out side and the furnace had to keep up).

The second day of the retreat, my partner, Dave (who also brought our dog), and Molly's partner, Jason, joined us. We had decided to try to stay a second night this year so we could get some relaxation post teaching. We had a great time, snacking by the lodge's huge hearth, having a glass of wine, and hiking in the morning. Again though, deep sleep eluded me. We left on Sunday and I was somewhat exhausted.

Monday morning I took the dog out, took a deep breath of cold fresh air and had a searing pain in my upper right jaw/teeth. OK, my teeth are sensitive anyway so I thought, "Wow, must be really cold out." But then I went in, made myself a big cup of hot tea (generally not a problem for me to eat or drink hot things), took one sip and BANG! another huge searing tooth pain. Not good! I determined that I could only eat mouth-temperature food. Nothing hot, nothing cold.

I've had some tooth pain trouble before so I knew that I should try a few days on ibuprofen to see if I had any inflammation that would go down. Two days later, still have the tooth pain and now I have a stomach ache from all the ibuprofen too. Great. So I finally make a dentist appointment and I am able to get in on Thursday - 4 days now of tooth pain whenever I eat anything warmer or cooler than the inside of my mouth.

I was sure all my teeth would have to be pulled and I'd have to get dentures (maybe a bit dramatic but that's how much it hurt). The dentist performed some kind of ice-cold, metal rod, tooth sensitivity test. Guess what? My teeth are off the charts sensitive. But the good news is that I don't have to have any teeth pulled nor do I need a root canal (my nerves are very much alive, thank you). I might be a night-time jaw clencher or grinder, which can cause inflammation and sensitivity, and would require a mouth guard to break the habit and reduce sensitivity.

But here's the kicker: my dentist told me that I needed to relax. How do you like that? A restorative yoga teacher who is prescribed relaxation. It's a bit ironic but it makes sense. I've had two very busy weekends in a row with not so great sleep. Good sleep and relaxation help reduce stress which helps the body to fight inflammation. Inflammation can irritate the nerves in the mouth and cause tooth pain. So, I am back on ibuprofen, I have a special paste I have to put on my teeth before bed, and I have to relax more if I want to avoid the mouth guard and further pain.

Yoga teacher, heal thyself.

Inspired Intention ~ The Nature of Sankalpa

I am so happy to have run across this article by Kelly McGonigal in Yoga International. This is one of the more in-depth articles I have found about setting your Sankalpa and practicing Yoga Nidra. There is more to the article - the actual magazine includes sidebars and helpful hints (you should go find a copy) - but the article below is excellent even without the extras. Visit this link to view the article at Yoga International.

Inspired Intention

The Nature of Sankalpa

The yoga tradition offers a profound formula for realizing your heartfelt desires—without asking you to change who you are.

By Kelly McGonigal

Almost every New Year’s resolution starts with two words: “I will.” We summon our willpower and pledge to change not just what we do but who we are. We set goals and imagine how happy we will be when we get what we want.

But if there’s one thing yoga teaches us, it’s that there’s a world of difference between “I will” and “Thy will.” Most New Year’s resolutions spring from the misguided desires of the ego, senses, and conditioning. They almost always fail because they start from the assumption that who you are is not good enough, and reinforce the mistaken belief that your happiness depends on acquiring what you want.

The yoga tradition offers a refreshing alternative to the New Year’s resolution: the practice of sankalpa, or resolve. A sankalpa practice starts from the radical premise that you already are who you need to be to fulfill your life’s dharma. All you need to do is focus your mind, connect to your most heartfelt desires, and channel the divine energy within.


Beyond Resolutions
Rod Stryker, founder of ParaYoga, explains that the chief architect of life is the mind. To create the life we are meant to live, we must draw the mind again and again to our dharma, our deepest intentions, and the qualities of the Divine within.

A sankalpa is a statement that does this for us. Stryker explains that kalpa means vow, or “the rule to be followed above all other rules.” San, he says, refers to a connection with the highest truth. Sankalpa, then, is a vow and commitment we make to support our highest truth. “By definition, a sankalpa should honor the deeper meaning of our life. A sankalpa speaks to the larger arc of our lives, our dharma—our overriding purpose for being here.” The sankalpa becomes a statement you can call upon to remind you of your true nature and guide your choices.

While the typical New Year’s resolution is abandoned within weeks, if not days, as enthusiasm and willpower run out, a sankalpa requires none of the ego-driven willpower we typically summon to make changes. According to Richard Miller, PhD, a clinical psychologist and teacher in the Advaita Vedanta and Kashmir nondual traditions, a sankalpa arrives with everything needed to fully realize it. This includes iccha (tremendous will and energy), kriya (action), and jnana (the wisdom of how to deliver that action). “These are all aspects of the Divine, and they live within us. When the true sankalpa comes in, we awaken these three qualities of the Divine,” Miller says. “You don’t have to ask where you’ll find the will to do it. The energy and will is already there. The sankalpa informs us of the action we’re willing to take into the world.”


Two Types of Resolve
A sankalpa can take two forms. The first is what Miller calls “the heartfelt desire,” a statement that reflects your true nature. This type of sankalpa is far more all-encompassing than a New Year’s resolution, and requires no change or action. It is literally and simply a statement of who you are, such as “I am already whole, and already healed,” or “I am peace itself.” According to Miller, it doesn’t come from the intellectual mind. “The resolve comes from deep within us, directly out of the mystery of who we ultimately are. It then informs our mind of a particular direction that we need to take, or are taking in our life.”

A sankalpa can also take a second form—that of a specific intention or goal. Brenna Geehan, a certified ParaYoga instructor in the San Francisco Bay Area, explains, “When you discover your purpose, not everything happens all at once. To live your soul’s mission, you need to reach milestones.” Setting specific intentions can help you align your moment-to-moment choices with your heartfelt desire. Geehan suggests looking forward into the next year and asking yourself what specific things need to happen to move you forward on your path. Your specific sankalpa will describe what you need to do, and where you need to direct your energy, to make progress on your larger life goals.


Discovering Your Sankalpa
Discovering your sankalpa is a process of listening. Your heartfelt desire is already present, waiting to be seen, heard, and felt. It’s not something you need to make up, and the mind doesn’t have to go wildly searching for it.

Miller describes three stages of the listening process delineated in the Vedanta tradition. The first, sravana, is the willingness to hear the message of the heartfelt desire. It can take courage to listen to the heart, and a quiet, settled mind—one cultivated through meditation—will best be able to hear this innermost call. The second state, manana, is the act of turning to and welcoming the messenger in. When you hear the call, you must be willing to sit with it, feel it, and deeply reflect on it. The final stage, nididhyasana, is the willingness to do what the heartfelt desire requires of you. “It will call you into action, into the world,” says Miller. “You must be willing to respond.”

What if you sit down to listen, and don’t hear anything in response? Or what if the answers you hear—new car, new job, better relationship—sound more like the endless desires of your ego, senses, and conditioned mind than like the wisdom of your heart?

Anne Douglas, a yoga therapist in Banff, Alberta, specializes in navigating her students through the sometimes difficult process of answering the question, “What do I really want?” She encourages students to simply start where they are. Douglas has found that any goal can be an entry point, including a typical New Year’s resolution. “Even a desire that might be interpreted as simple or shallow can lead you to the heart’s desire. It might arise out of conditioning, but if you trust the practice and keep following the heart’s desire, it will take you to the essence of your being.”

To get to that deeper yearning, work with whatever goal arises, but also ask yourself what’s underneath it. For example, one of the most common goals Douglas hears in our culture is, “I want to get fit” or “I want to lose weight.” When working with her students, she asks them to imagine how life will be, and how they think they will feel, as a result of losing weight and getting in shape. Is it a sense of self-love, physical well-being, or freedom? What is the feeling they are striving for? What is the longing in the heart that is pointing them in this direction?

Another common intention is to quit something, such as smoking, shopping, or eating meat. To investigate the heartfelt desire behind this kind of intention, ask yourself what desire that behavior is currently trying to satisfy. Are you seeking peace of mind, freedom from pain, or the feeling of being accepted? “See if you can find a deeper hunger, a longing that’s asking to be nourished,” Douglas encourages. That hunger may point you toward what the heart really yearns for. “If someone starts with, ‘I want to quit smoking,’ as they work with it, they’ll start to feel a deeper desire, such as, ‘I want to take care of my body.’ Even further down the road, the sankalpa might become, ‘I love my body,’ or even ‘I am love itself.’ It’s an evolution, but it still has that feeling of the initial intention to quit smoking.”


Stating the Sankalpa
It’s natural to identify a desire as “I want” and an intention as “I will” or “I won’t.” But these phrases lack the truth of the commitment that comes from heartfelt desire and connection to one’s dharma. “A sankalpa isn’t a petition or a prayer,” Miller says, “It is a statement of deeply held fact, and a vow that is true in the present moment.”

For this reason, your sankalpa—both the heartfelt desire and the specific intention—should be stated in the present tense. For example, rather than saying, “I want to be more compassionate,” your sankalpa might be, “Compassion is my true nature” or “I am compassion itself.” Rather than setting the intention, “I will not eat meat,” your specific sankalpa might be, “With compassion for my body and for other beings, I eat a vegetarian diet.” Stating your sankalpa in present tense acknowledges the tremendous will, energy, and truth that arrive with the discovery of your heartfelt desire. It also reminds you that whatever is required of you is already within you.


Planting the Seed
The core practice of sankalpa is remembering. By bringing the statement to mind, you strengthen your resolve and honor your heartfelt desire. But simply reciting the sankalpa is not enough. “As soon as you say you want something, a part of you recognizes that you don’t have it,” Stryker explains. “By repeating what you want, you reinforce the belief that you don’t have it.” When the unconscious mind operates from a place of lack or perceived inadequacy, the energy that supports your resolve is weakened.

Stryker points to the Tripura Rahasya, a tantric text which teaches that the quality of the mind reciting the sankalpa determines its effect. To fully realize your resolve, the mind must shift from dualistic thinking to nondual awareness. This is why meditation is the most fertile ground for sankalpa practice. It returns the mind to a state of present moment wholeness. “The longer we are able to effortlessly rest in that place of oneness, the more rapidly we are able to fulfill our sankalpa,” explains Stryker. “The mind becomes a more powerful agent to help us fulfill our intentions.”

The most supportive state of mind for remembering your sankalpa is the direct experience that you are already open, timeless, and perfect—what nondualism describes as the state of pure being. “If that’s not in place, ego gets involved,” Miller says. “You will come at the intention from a place of ‘there’s something wrong with me that I need to fix.’ You must connect to the quality of being that is already complete and whole.”

One of the most powerful practices for finding this state and planting the seed of sankalpa is yoga nidra. While nidra means “sleep,” it is actually a process of awakening to your true nature. Yoga nidra systematically relaxes the body and mind and guides you into deep awareness. You are aware and awake, but you experience a disidentification from the body and mind. In this way, the confusion between prakriti and purusha dissolves, and you come to rest in the peace, wisdom, and love of your true nature. Anne Douglas explains, “In yoga nidra, we discover a profound level of openness. Our self-imposed limitations dissolve, and we are pure being.” When you recall your sankalpa in the waking state, it might trigger doubts or the ego’s striving. “When you recall your sankalpa in yoga nidra, the heartfelt desire arrives as a felt sense in the body-mind. It is absolutely alive and true in that moment.”


Nourishing Your Resolve
Once you have identified and planted the seed of your sankalpa, you can begin the process of strengthening sankalpa shakti, the energy to take the action required by your resolve. According to Geehan, every choice you make either supports or undermines your resolve. This is true even for the decisions that don’t seem directly related to your specific intention. “Let’s say you’re aware that sugar disrupts your energy and sleep. But time and time again, you ‘forget’ this awareness and eat sweets anyway. Each time you do this, you reinforce the part of you that says ‘screw it’ to awareness and intention. You’re giving power to the part of you that goes against your consciousness.”

On the other hand, every conscious choice you make is an opportunity to strengthen sankalpa shakti. This is the basis for a ParaYoga practice called “the departure point.” The instructions are simple: pick something nonconstructive that you do on a regular basis and commit to not doing it for 40 days. Biting your nails, drinking coffee, watching television—it doesn’t matter what you choose, as long as it’s habitual. It could be related to your sankalpa, but it doesn’t have to be.

This might sound a lot like the typical New Year’s resolution, but the departure point practice isn’t ultimately about the habit you’re trying to break. When you come to that moment of impulse, instead of following your usual instinct, bring your sankalpa to mind. In this way, the habit becomes a reminder that points you back to your resolve.

In the space between the impulse to act and reciting your sankalpa, it’s important to pause and invite the mind to settle into a state of oneness. Enjoy a few mindful breaths, and find the pause between the breaths. “Take a moment to remember your true self-nature. In that state—a place of wholeness and unity, not a place of confusion or lack or even hope—remember your sankalpa,” Stryker says. This is the key to the departure point practice. “The sankalpa is not being reintroduced to a mind that thinks it doesn’t have what you think you want to have. It empowers the sankalpa in a completely different way.”

Even instances when you forget your intention can be transformed into support for your sankalpa. Anne Douglas uses the memory of these missed opportunities to prepare students for future choices. “Go back in time to a point where you lost it. Go back to that sensory feeling of compulsion, reimagine it, and recreate the moment.” Once you’re fully in that feeling, imagine not giving in to the habit. Pull up the power of your sankalpa, and let yourself feel the heartfelt desire in your whole body. “Then go back to remembering the feeling of compulsion. Surf back and forth, making the feeling of the heartfelt desire stronger each time.”

You can apply the same approach not just to the behavior you choose for the departure point practice but for all of your choices. Miller advises a daily review of your actions from the perspective of your resolve. For example, let’s say that your heartfelt desire is, “I am filled with divine compassion,” and your specific sankalpa is “In every encounter, I treat myself and others with kindness.” Looking back over your day, ask yourself: How was I unkind, mean-spirited, or hard-hearted? Conduct this review not with harsh self-criticism but with a sincere interest in seeing how it happened. What was the situation? What were your thoughts? How did it feel? What did you say and do? How did that feel?

Miller doesn’t refer to these missteps as failures, but simply “moving away from yourself.” The momentary lack of compassion isn’t who you are. “The sankalpa really describes who we are and how we move in the world when we’re in harmony with ourselves.” Life just happens to be the process of learning how to align with that true nature, which means we occasionally lose our way.

Once you see how you moved away from yourself, imagine how you could have responded. What might you have thought, said, and done that would be more consistent with your resolve? What would that have felt like? See yourself in action and feel it in your body. Envision this response until it feels as if you had actually done it. According to Douglas, this practice “helps dissolve the conditioning that keeps us from our dharma and from awakening to our true nature.”


Being and Becoming
When you first begin to work with sankalpa, the practice can seem full of contradictions. You start by identifying what you want, but the only way to realize it is to acknowledge that you already are it, and already have it. You set specific goals, and you commit to breaking habits. But at every opportunity to act in line with these goals, you must first acknowledge that you are already perfect and whole.

According to Rod Stryker, this apparent contradiction is the essence of both sankalpa practice and nondual teachings. “It all goes back to this idea that each of us is both being and becoming. There’s the part of us, para atman, that is transcendent, inherently one, and doesn’t need anything. We also have a jiva atman, that part of us that comes into life with a purpose and a destiny and is always becoming.” Stryker explains that to fulfill your dharma, you must find a way to integrate these two seemingly opposite aspects of being. “It’s vital for happiness that you walk both paths simultaneously. Direct your energy with intention, but be mindful that your nature is unchanged whether you achieve your goals or not. Live as contentedly as possible in between the goal and realizing the goal.”


For more in-depth practice, find out how to discover your heartfelt desire, learn a yoga nidra practice, and listen to the Shiva Sankalpa Sukta, a powerful six-verse hymn from the Rig Veda that entreats the mind “to dwell on the auspicious will of the Divine,” and helps you cultivate conscious resolve in alignment with your dharma.


Kelly McGonigal, PhD, teaches yoga, meditation, and psychology at Stanford University and is the author of Yoga for Pain Relief (New Harbinger, 2009).